The Essence
A community of like-minded souls coming together to explore, learn and play.
Erotic Energy as Presence
We approach erotic energy as a pathway to deep presence and embodied awareness, not as performance or consumption.
Kink as Sacred Ritual
BDSM and kink practices are held as meditative, ritual experiences grounded in slow presence, breath, and connection.
Living Consent Practice
Consent is not a checkbox. It is continuous, embodied, nervous-system based, and dynamically felt in every moment.
Power as Energy
Exploring power dynamics as energetic exchange, not control. Submission as conscious opening, not abandonment of self.
Trauma-Informed Space
Our practices honor the nervous system. No pushing, no shaming. Room for pause, exit, and grounding at all times.
Exploration Without Dissociation
We practice staying present through intensity, learning to meet sensation with awareness rather than escape.
Consent & Safewords at Temple of Eros
A sacred map for power, desire, and responsibility created by Betty Martin
💚 Green – Flow
"I am fully present, comfortable, and consenting. You may continue or deepen the experience."
Green invites the energy to expand, with joy, curiosity, and connection.
💛 Yellow – Pause / Check-In
"I am nearing my boundary. Please slow down, soften, or adjust."
Yellow is a signal to pause, recalibrate, or tune in to subtle cues – not a stop, but a request for gentle care.
❤️ Red – Stop
"I need to pause immediately. I withdraw my consent for this moment."
Red is absolute. The activity must stop, and supportive care follows.
This system allows each participant to move with clarity, safety, and freedom, honoring both your own boundaries and the shared energy of the Temple.
Your body, your energy, your consent – always sacred, always respected.
Event Structure
Each Temple of Eros gathering follows a clear and intentional arc, guiding participants from arrival to integration. While the content and practices vary according to the theme of each event, the overall structure creates continuity, safety, and trust.
Arrival & Landing
Silence. Body grounding. Breath. Orientation to the space. Setting clear intention before engaging.
Teaching & Context
Learning about kink through nervous system lens. Understanding consent in practice. Exploring power and energy dynamics.
Guided Exploration
Structured practice in pairs or small groups. Clear boundaries. Specific exercises.
Integration & Closure
Sharing without analysis. Body-based closing. Nervous system reset. Intentional transition back to everyday awareness.
The Wheel of Consent
A sacred map for power, desire, and responsibility—created by Betty Martin
The Wheel of Consent helps us understand who the action is for and who is doing it. From these two questions arise four distinct quadrants: Taking, Allowing, Giving, and Receiving each requiring explicit consent.
Taking
I do something for me. I choose, direct, take pleasure. Responsibility is mine.
Allowing
Something is done to me for the other. I permit access an active, empowered gift of permission.
Giving
I do something for you. My action is for your experience. Devotional giving, not people-pleasing.
Receiving
Something is done to me for me. I receive, hold responsibility for my experience.
Our Commitments
No Pushing
You are never encouraged to go beyond your edge. Your boundaries are sacred and will be honored without question.
No Shaming
Whatever arises fear, tears, shutdown, arousal, confusion is welcome. There is no right way to experience.
Pause Culture
You can pause, slow down, or exit at any moment. No explanations needed. Your nervous system is the authority.
Grounding Available
Tools and support for regulation are always accessible. Facilitators trained to recognize collapse, freeze, and fawn responses.
Ready to Begin?
Temple of Eros uses intention-based onboarding to ensure readiness and mutual alignment. Access is progressive and earned through demonstrated maturity and embodied practice.