Preparing for Your Experience
Temple of Eros is a space for conscious eros, power, vulnerability and transformation. For this space to be safe, alive and integrated, preparation is an important part of the practice.
This page is an invitation to meet the event with clarity, self-responsibility and body awareness. Preparation is essential to creating a safe, grounded experience.
The Scroll of Eros
Ten Pillars of Our Sacred Container
1. Radical Inclusion & Sacred Vetting
Temple of Eros welcomes all bodies, all genders, and the wide spectrum of erotic expression. Inclusion here does not mean absence of discernment. We do not judge your desires, your appearance, or your experience level. We do require alignment with the values that hold this space: consent, awareness, and responsibility. To enter the Temple is not a right, but an agreement. By crossing the threshold, you commit to upholding the sanctity of the container.
2. The Gift of Presence
Your presence is the most essential offering you bring into the Temple. Tantra is the foundation of our work and invites slowness, listening, and embodied awareness. Whether you are engaging in meditation, ritual, movement, sensual exploration, or kink, you are asked to arrive fully and remain with what is real. We move beyond transactional interaction. Presence is offered freely, not in exchange for outcome, validation, or experience.
3. Decommodification of Intimacy
Temple of Eros is a sanctuary from the marketplace mentality. Here, intimacy is not currency and pleasure is not something to acquire or consume. We do not approach one another as means to an end, nor as experiences to collect. Each encounter is created together, moment by moment, through mutual presence and choice. We are participants in shared experience, not consumers of sensation.
4. Sovereign Responsibility
You are the sovereign custodian of your own body, energy, and nervous system. The Temple provides structure and support, but it does not replace personal responsibility. You are asked to know your limits, to speak your needs clearly, and to care for your own regulation. True consent begins with self-trust and self-responsibility.
5. Authentic Erotic Expression
Temple of Eros invites the revelation of your authentic erotic self. Whether your expression is tender or fierce, quiet or bold, dominant or devoted, you are welcome to show up as you are. Expression here is not performed for approval, but offered in truth. Eros is honored as a sacred force, guided by respect for the boundaries and autonomy of others.
6. Sacred Co-Creation
The Temple is a living field shaped by all who enter. Each person carries responsibility for the tone, care, and integrity of the space. When support, attention, or adjustment is needed, we step in with awareness rather than indifference. We hold the Temple together through shared stewardship.
7. Conscious Integrity & Confidentiality
Trust is the foundation of this container. We act with integrity, attend to safety, and take responsibility for addressing what feels misaligned or harmful. Silence is never required when care is needed. What is shared, witnessed, or revealed in the Temple remains within the Temple. Confidentiality protects depth, vulnerability, and freedom.
8. Energetic and Physical Care
We honor both the physical environment and the energetic field of the Temple. Shared spaces, tools, and surfaces are cleaned and respected. Equally, we attend to energetic closure, integration, and completion. We do not leave emotional or energetic residue behind. We leave the Temple, and one another, more whole than we arrived.
9. Embodied Participation
There are no passive observers in Temple of Eros. Whether actively engaged or quietly witnessing, participation is embodied and intentional. We move out of abstraction and into lived experience. Connection arises through presence, sensation, and awareness.
10. Sacred Immediacy
Temple of Eros lives in immediacy. We release distraction, performance, and excessive analysis in favor of what is directly felt. We prioritize breath, sensation, and contact with the present moment. This is where transformation occurs here, and now.
Preparation Modules
Explore each module to deepen your preparation practice. Click to learn more.
RBDSM + Aftercare
Relationships, Boundaries, Desires, Sexual Health, Meaning & Aftercare: a comprehensive framework for conscious intimate encounters.
Trauma Responses
Understanding automatic nervous system reactions (fight, flight, freeze, fawn & collapse) as intelligent survival mechanisms within sacred practice.
Consent & Safewords
The Green-Yellow-Red safeword system for navigating kink, power and surrender with clarity, safety, and embodied presence.
Inner Preparation
We ask all participants to take a moment beforehand to listen inward:
Self-Inquiry
Take time to explore your authentic desires and motivations:
- • What is my intention for participating?
- • What am I curious about, and what am I not ready for?
- • Why am I drawn to this experience right now?
- • What am I hoping to discover or explore?
- • Is this yes coming from my body, or from expectation?
- • What fears or resistances am I noticing?
This strengthens embodied consent and reduces unconscious transgressions, both of yourself and others.
Boundaries & Desires
Come as you are, with respect for your own and others' boundaries.
- • Your yes, no, and maybe are all valid
- • No requires no explanation
- • Silence is not consent
- • Consent can be withdrawn at any time
- • Desires are invitations, never expectations
Know your edges before you arrive:
- • What practices or dynamics feel aligned for exploration?
- • What is a clear no for me in this moment?
- • What does my body need to feel safe?
- • How will I communicate when I need to slow down or stop?
Nervous System Awareness
Learn to recognize your body's signals:
- • How do I notice in my body when I become overwhelmed?
- • What helps me land again?
- • What does activation feel like in my body?
- • How do I know when I'm beginning to dissociate or freeze?
- • What helps me return to presence when overwhelmed?
- • What is my body telling me about readiness?
Regulation Before the Event
To support the nervous system, we recommend in the 24-48 hours before the event:
- • Limit alcohol and substances
- • Prioritize sleep and rest
- • Eat nourishing, familiar food
- • Avoid very intense physical training
This is not control, but care for the body and the field we create together.
Managing Expectations
Temple of Eros is not a space for performance or availability.
- • No one has a right to touch, play or response
- • It is fully valid to just observe, breathe or rest
- • Much can happen, and nothing must happen
- • Presence is more important than activity
Consent in Practice
In Temple of Eros, consent is living and embodied:
- • Ask before all touch
- • Check in during
- • Stop with uncertainty
- • Safewords and stop signals are always respected
Strong feelings and reactions can arise. This is a natural part of deep work.
Trauma Sensitivity
The body can sometimes react faster than thought.
- • Hyperactivation, numbness or emotional waves can occur
- • This is not wrong or weakness
- • Support is available
- • You are responsible for asking for support
We are responsible for meeting you when you do.
Practical Safety
For your own regulation we recommend:
- • Wear clothes you feel safe and comfortable in
- • Bring warm layers
- • Have your own water bottle
- • Familiarize yourself with breaks, rest zones and who the contact person is
Aftercare Begins Before the Event
Afterglow is part of the practice.
- • Emotional or bodily reactions can come in the days after
- • Give yourself space for rest, stillness and integration
- • Try to keep your calendar open after the event
Aftercare is not extra, it is an integral part of Temple practice.
Physical Preparation
Rest & Nourishment
Arrive well-rested and nourished. Avoid substances that disconnect you from sensation or present-moment awareness.
Body Awareness
Practice connecting to your body through movement, breathwork, or somatic practices in the days before.
Grounding Practices
Develop simple grounding techniques (breath patterns, physical anchors, sensory awareness) that you can use during the event.
Emotional Space
Clear your schedule before and after. Don't rush to or from the experience. Give yourself spaciousness.
Relational Preparation
Coming with a Partner or Alone?
If with a partner:
- • Discuss intentions, boundaries, and desires beforehand
- • Agree on check-in signals during the experience
- • Clarify what feels aligned regarding interaction with others
- • Create space for different experiences without obligation to match
If attending solo:
- • Know you can fully participate without a partner
- • Trust that connection opportunities will emerge organically
- • Remember: you are complete as you are
- • Solo exploration can be deeply powerful
What to Bring
Essentials
- • Comfortable clothing you can move in
- • Water bottle
- • Journal for reflection
- • Any personal grounding objects
Optional
- • Eye mask or blindfold
- • Personal ritual items
- • Crystals or stones for grounding
- • Anything that supports your practice
Final Reminders
This is a space for conscious presence, not transgression.
Pace, boundaries and safety are part of the practice.
We look forward to meeting in respect, clarity and eros